“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent.
You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.
“You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts.
You have to pay your electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to give it all you got. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth. But that’s all.”—Cheryl Strayed (via themilkywhiteway)
“I look a little tough in my author’s photo, and I’ve been amazed at how many people—universities, magazines—ask me to send them a different photo, because they say I look aloof, unapproachable, tough, scary, and/or sad. I started asking male authors with tough-looking photos if they had ever gotten any grief about this and they said no, never. When it comes to the author’s photo, women are more likely to hear things like: “You don’t look as pretty as you could in your photo!” or “Why aren’t you smiling?” I, for one, would like to know what it is about an un-smiling woman that makes some people so fucking uncomfortable. Or why anyone would assume a woman’s foremost concern is prettiness.”—Laura van den Berg (via elliottholt)
“Femininity in general is seen as frivolous. People often say feminine people are doing “the most”, meaning that to don a dress, heels, lipstick, and big hair is artifice, fake, and a distraction. But I knew even as a teenager that my femininity was more than just adornments; they were extensions of me, enabling me to express myself and my identity. My body, my clothes, and my makeup are on purpose, just as I am on purpose.”—Janet Mock, Redefining Realness (via lustambitions)
365 Days of music - Day 3: A song you listened to as a kid, that you thought made you cool. Real cool:
Ghetto Superstar - Pras feat. ODB and Mya
I used to listen to my big sister’s CDs and she was (still is) totally into R&B and Hip Hop and I obviously wanted to be just like her. I felt like the illest kid in town when this was playing. I still do.
"Amy was sexually abused on her 4th Birthday by her own father (a registered sex offender from Florida). Amys mom Karla, who is a legal US immigrant from Brazil, was seeking justice for her daughter in Florida, but after a year the case gets mysteriously achived. To protect little Amy from the abusive father, Karla ran away to Texas where they find help from kind people and support organisations. Amy starts the school in Brownsville,TX. On January 16, 2014 Texas police arrests Karla while dropping off Amy for school. Now Karla is in prison facing criminal and civil charges for running away to protect her daughter and little Amy is with the authorities of the Government Agency for Children in Texas. The father is still free…"
I can’t even imagine how hard this must be for Amy’s mother and Amy! To be in a foreign country and to face this kind of situation must be a nightmare. Please help before this monster of a man attacks another little girl! Sign the petition and share it!
passion is intelligent and beautiful and way underrated. fuck sadness and aloofness and apathy being associated with intelligence, and fuck world weary assholes who don’t get that and decide to romanticize the feeling of being disconnected and empty